not sitting right...

I was just being nostalgic and thinking about how this senior year feels for me as compared to my high school senior year and I just realized that there are a few loose ends still out there that are bugging me. Some of these hurts, I've been told to just let go of, to just suck it up and move on. But I've never really believed that it's ok or possible to just leave situations like that alone and unresolved. I feel at a loss for words for how I feel about these things, but it's starting to feel like it's time to just make things right. So that before I move on from this stage, I can at least feel full resolution from things that should have been solved long ago.

Now it's all very well and easy to say this but I'm not quite sure how to go about it. Some people will not be reasoned with, and let's face it, when you're being totally ignored by someone it's harder still to convince them that you just want to talk or you just want to change things from so called "bad" terms to at least neutral ones. i'm not asking for a full on bestfriendshipohmygodcallmeeverydayok sort of thing, I just want things to be cool between me and some people.

I hope I can find ways to gain some resolution in these matters because I've tried the whole give it time thing, and it hasn't worked. The holes I feel are still there.

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grateful

dear lord,

thank you for this struggle and the ever present need to do more, be more and learn more.

thanks.


<3 me.


soooooooooooo life is hard, what else is new, what's great though is that it's liveable. and surely, step by step, things are turning around. I'll do a better update soon I swear, but this week is as close to the peak of stress as can be for me so bear with me til I have breathing time.


dear des,

i love you and thank you for taking care of me and making me feel like my goals are accomplishable and my life is good.




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too long...

i was going to write a blog updating this blog just for the sake of updating but then i realized...there are somethings that have taken "too long" and are now damaged...

it's late though so i'll update this later....that sudden change in inspiration took me by surprise. so, as i often do, but this time with more hope than before, more to come later.

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simplicity.

I love the life I have created for myself, and I am respectfully proud of who I am and grateful for those who helped me get here.

Thank God.

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what i want...

I suppose it's been a while since I've delved into myself and myself feel a little uncomfortable, but I feel like going there right now. Why? I don't know, but I feel like I need to. It's therapeutic after all to break yourself down (in a safe way) every now and then and re-examine the bits and pieces you've find. I think it's one of the best ways to see how you've warped as fragments and yet still maintained your same self.

Moving on from the explanation of where I'm going...I suppose that right now I WANT to feel certain things and I NEED to feel certain things, and the difference between the two is pretty glaring. I WANT to feel happy, accomplished, calm, proud, useful and needed. I NEED to feel secure, strong, hopeful, and valuable. The difference? I can fool myself into thinking I feel what I want to feel and its effortless, I have to put effort into feeling what I need to feel and often lie to myself about how well its going.

Tricky situation no? To be pulled in one direction tell yourself you're going that way to keep yourself pushing only to realize the attempt may have been futile and then re-realize you've been kidding yourself and go the opposite way with just as much drive as you did your original direction. Imagine fighting both sides of your own war in your head, conceding and gaining with each breath you take, and you have the reason for my constant silence, my introspection.

Truth of the matter is that there are very few times now when I am sure as to what I am feeling, and that scares me. I know that I feel love for my family, and I know that I feel love for Des. I know that I am grateful for the life I now live. and then everything gets hazy.

I don't suppose I'm depressed, just contemplative. Things keeping me awake at night that I didn't even know were bugging me. Am I anxious? Yes. Am I worried? No. Anxious because I'm not sure what I'll learn about myself this time, but not worried because if I can handle it as well as I have the past few times I've done this then I'll come out stronger and yet again one step closer to who I want to be.

And now a few random things I want to spew out...these are for different random people whom i'll never disclose...i just want these things and yet i know i wont get most of them so just saying it gets it off my mind...

...i want you to say you're sorry for being so horrible to me, i want you to own up for what you did and take your share of the blame off my back...

...i want you to know how much i care about you, and i want to start over with how i've treated our relationship...

...i want you to realize that i'm not mad, dissappointed yes, but not mad, just talk to me so we can work it out, ill try harder this time...

...i want to stick with this cool thing we've got but i think it may be time for me to move on...

...i want the truth.

sigh, ok that was a lot off my mind. and now to bed.

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and im back...

back in the U.S.

back in the "long-distance" part of the relationship.

back at home.

back on my own during the day.

back feeling like my other half is just missing.

back to driving on the "right" side of the street.

back to chain restaurants and cheap drinks.

back to familiar scenes and sounds.

back to my dogs.

back to my family.

back to my friends.

I had the best trip of my life while in Australia. Let me put it this way, if you could live and feel the euphoria you would feel in a really good dream then that's how I lived for the past five weeks. Life felt so surreal and I finally felt that hole in my head filled because I was around the one I love the most. The food tasted better, the hours went by sweeter, and time was kind. The trip went by hastily but at the same time it went just fast enough for me to feel happy and feel like I was making up for all the days I spent miserable. I love Des so much and he's right in everything he consoles me with. I love our relationship, I love the life that he opens up for me, and I'm grateful, so so grateful, to God for being blessed with this relationship and for Des.

I'll finish my blog about Aus for sure even if it's going to take some time. I'm really sad right now because I miss the life I had while I was there and I miss the company of my other half, but it'll be ok. Another few months until I get another hug and I know we can make it. Past this point, we'll have spent more time apart than together but that's ok. Because we make up for it in essence.

Happy 11 month anniversary darling, it sucks that that had to be the day I left, but it's ok. I love you.


Sigh...and now to forage around for some food...not that i actually want to eat anything here...i only want to eat what baby had to feed me...he picked the food and where we ate...i hate having to decide for myself all the time, half the fun of a relationship is getting someone else's opinions and choices...

for all who are in a relationship with normal distances between partners, don't take it for granted, and don't think that you have it easier than me.

with love,

bam

jetsetting...

well not really. im currently in australia visiting my super amazingboyfriend and in order to keep track of things and to keep people updated ive created a newblog.


http://bamsinaustralia.blogspot.com/


check it outfor periodic updates and photos!!


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